Ever wondered how to seamlessly transition from chatting on dating apps to getting her number? You're not alone. Many guys struggle to make that transition without coming off as too 'eager' or awkward. In this blog, we'll break down a real-life example of how to navigate this transition. The main focus here is get her number on dating apps, but if you watch the full video below, you'll see that my strategy is actually to GIVE her my number at the right moment, so that SHE starts out texting me first.

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The Power of Playful Interaction

In the world of online dating, playful banter can be your best friend. It's not about bombarding her with questions or trying to keep the conversation alive at all costs. Instead, it's about letting the interaction flow naturally. As the video above reveals, starting with a playful comment about something from her or your profile can set the more personalized and fun tone.

For example, Emily started the conversation with a reference to a profile detail from bio, leading to a much more 'personalized' conversation. My profile picture at the time was me holding a kitten in my classroom... and my profile bio had a small snippet saying "Bonus points if you 💜 cats" and so with that context - this is how the conversation started. Emily opened me with: "Is it even more points if i'm a lefty too?"

Key Principle: Include Her in the Fun

A crucial lesson from this interaction is something she did really well with her opener with me. Why? Because I knew it was PERSONAL. I had a picture on my dating app of me golfing mid-swing. She was able to see that i'm left-handed - and she knew I would connect with that because us LEFTIES are rare in the world. That was a great way that she made it personal to me, and a strategy you should be using by really observing a woman's profile as a way to figure out good paths to take your conversations down that she WILL be interested in because you are strategically making it more personal.

Now later in the conversation (the whole conversation is broken down in the video) I was able to do something that you should add to your 'dating app tool belt'... involve her in your responses. Instead of always giving direct answers, sometimes turn it into a game. When she asked me about my favorite Disney movie...

My response was, "You get three guesses." This approach invites her into the conversation and keeps it engaging.

The Art of Short and Sweet Texts

Short texts can be incredibly effective. There is so much power to not over-explaining. Women are adept at picking up on social cues, so a simple "warmer" or "colder" is enough to keep the game going. This technique not only maintains interest but also challenges her ability to read between the lines and 'play along'. And women love to 'play along' and be challenged.

Timing Is Everything: Mirror Texting

Timing plays a pivotal role in texting. In the video breakdown, there is a strategic delay in how long I am taking responding to Emily's messages. This is all about maintaining a woman's interest by allowing her to actually WONDER about you, and get excited when she gets a text. If you are texting women back consistently quick (within 15 minutes) she is never getting time to actually MISS you and think about you, because you are always available. Women get bored of men that are too 'available'. By waiting until the next day to respond with a longer text, the conversation stayed fresh and exciting. This technique aligns with my whole concept of mirror texting—always strategically responding slower than a woman does to you.

Why? Well if a woman takes 4 hours to respond to you... and you take 5 hours to reply back - you gave her exactly what she gave you, a long delayed response. IF she wants to hear from you sooner, she will have to shape up her own effort and respond to you quicker if she ever wants a chance of a timely response from you. There's so much gold right there for anyone that was ready to read that. You are constantly teaching a woman how she should treat you... all by what you do allow and do not allow. By Mirroring her response timing (but always responding a little bit slower) you are teaching her that if she doesn't prioritize responding to your messages, you definitely won't be prioritizing hers.

For more insights on texting dynamics, check out my post on Why Women Respond When You Text Less.

Transition to Phone Number

Once the playful bantering has run its course, there will be moments in your conversations where you can just 'feel' it's the right time to transition to the phone number. But most guys rush this process. Sometimes i'll take days or weeks of just responding to a woman once a day or once every other day... and weeks later the opportunity comes to transition from dating app to texting. Other times if i'm traveling and only have a few days, I may transition from dating app to phone number in just a day or two. But in general you should not be rushing for the phone number until a woman is invested in you and the conversation enough that she will actually REMEMBER you when you guys start texting.

Part of how well my 'texting game' works is because I am always taking my time to respond. And by me responding slowly throughout the conversation, that actually helps build 'scarcity' in a sense, so my texts are always 'worth more' than the Betamon Bob who is texting her all day everyday writing pen pal digital letters back and forth like two girlfriends.

Then when I can feel a woman is bought in enough that she will 'remember' me in a sense, I like to say something like "Text me, i'm bad at checking this thing (phone number)".

The key is to ensure your texting behavior matches your words. If you've been responding slowly, it makes sense to say, "Text me, I'm not great at checking this thing." This congruence builds trust and makes the exchange seamless. However if you are responding super quickly all the time to a woman on a dating app, this move will not work at all because your words are not congruent with your behavior and actions.

Common Mistakes to Avoid

• Over-explaining: Keep texts short and let her fill in the gaps.

• Incongruent messaging: Ensure your actions match your words to maintain trust.

• Rushing the number exchange: Let the interaction develop naturally before suggesting a move to text.
  
  

Key Takeaways for Getting A Woman's Number on Dating Apps

• Use playful language to engage her and keep the conversation light.

• Include her in your responses when possible to maintain interest and create some 'connection'. Don't do it in a simpy way by being her biggest 'fan'... but do it with playful teasing or 'cold-reading' her based on her pictures/bio.

• Match your texting style to hers for a natural flow. But always do LESS. I cover this a lot in my texting ebook and courses. This is essential because every single woman is different, but this gives you a gameplan to follow no matter what. It's all based on understanding her Timing, Energy, and Effort... using that as a guideline... and then always make sure of doing a little LESS than her.

• Transition to exchanging numbers when the time is right, ensuring your actions and words align. Like how I always give a woman my number and I use some form of the line 'text me, i'm not good at checking this' so my actions NEED to align by me only sending a woman 1-4 messages on a dating app per day TOPS. Many times I take my time and just respond once a day or once every other day. But always error on the side of taking your time rather than rushing in.

For more on setting the right tone in your texts, explore my breakdown on How to Flirt With Women Over Text.

F.A.Q.

How do you get a girl's number on a dating app?

Start with playful banter, engage her in the conversation, and transition to exchanging numbers naturally when the time is right. That timing is typically when she is 'double texting' you multiple times, or she is sending you long paragraphs if you are sending short messages, or if she is replying within 10 minutes consistently when you are taking multiple hours or days to reply. When I see those signs (or many others) I know it's time.

What is mirror texting and why does it work?

Mirror texting involves analyzing her texting style by looking at her timing, energy, and effort and making sure to try to do 'less' than her in all 3 of those categories. That keeps a woman 'challenged' and that keeps the conversation engaging for her because she finds it hard to get a read on you.

Why is it important to keep texts short?

Scarcity commands value. The less words you text, the more impactful they are. Plus women LOVE to read between the lines and try to figure you out. When you give them LESS to work with, they have to get their mind and emotions MORE invested in you to try to figure you out. There are many other benefits but trust me, it's always better to be short than long.

How can I ensure my actions match my words when texting?

Be consistent in your response time and tone, ensuring your behavior aligns with what you communicate. Or quite simply... book a coaching call with me (Adam). Details below this post.

-Adam Jordan
Founder of TextingPrince