In the world of dating, texting is your RESUME. You can't just show up and expect her to be impressed. She needs to EARN that date. Most guys don't get this right. They chase, they plead, they over-invest.

But here's the secret: If you want her to value your time, she needs to work for it. Making her earn a date isn't about playing games — it's about setting a standard. You need to create intrigue, show you're a busy guy, and have an abundance mindset. This is what separates the men from the boys.

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The Goldilocks Method: Not Too Hot, Not Too Cold

You've probably heard of the Goldilocks principle — not too hot, not too cold, but just right. It's the SAME with texting.

If you're TOO HOT you're texting her back too quickly, giving compliments she hasn't earned, or revealing too much about your life. The result is: She gets bored and moves on.

If you're TOO COLD, you're the guy who gets emotional, takes himself too seriously, or gives that dark psychopath energy. The result is: She's scared off and doesn't risk meeting up.

The key is being JUST RIGHT. Show her you're intriguing, lead the conversation, and maintain an abundance mindset. This keeps her interested without feeling overwhelmed or suffocated by you.

Check out my blog post on Common Texting Mistakes Guys Make: Why Women Want Less Effort for more insights on how to play being 'just right'... not too hot or not too cold.

Creating Intrigue and Mystery

Women love a man who can create mystery. It's not just about 'playing' hard to get; it's about being genuinely interesting. Share just enough to pique her interest and leave her wanting more. When she has to work to learn more about you, she values what she discovers.

This isn't about manipulating her — it's about giving her the CHANCE to discover the real you OVER TIME. When done right, she will be eager to meet up and continue to discover more about you in person, since she isn't learning the full story over your texting.

If you want to learn more about keeping her intrigued, check out my blog post on How to Flirt With Women Over Text (Without Coming Off Weird).

The Power of the First Impression

Your first date is CRUCIAL. Set it up right, and she'll be eager to see you again. This doesn't mean spending a fortune or going overboard. It's about creating a memorable experience. And that experience is all about the texting you are doing BEFORE the date, and her building anticipation up to get to figure more about you out when she meets you.

When she sees that you're different from every other guy out there, she’ll want to come back for more. This first impression sets the stage for her to chase you, rather than the other way around. Remember, you're not just another guy — you're THE GUY she's been waiting for.

To ensure you're making the right impression, check out my blog post on How to Set Boundaries Over Text (Without Killing Attraction).

Final Thoughts: Setting the Standard

Making her earn a date is about setting a standard. It's about knowing your worth and letting her see it. You don't have to jump through hoops or bend over backward. Be the man she needs you to be — confident, intriguing, and slightly out of reach. This is what makes her want to earn your time and attention.

Ready to take your texting game to the next level?

Check out the Texting Arcade — my new video game I created to help you practice matching effort, giving space, and making the right texting decision before you meet in real life.

You can play levels 1-3 for free and sharpen up your texting game.

Or if you want direct 1-on-1 coaching to fix your texting game in real time, book a personal coaching session with me here: TextingPrince.com/coaching.

Talk soon,

Adam Jordan
Founder, TextingPrince

Frequently Asked Questions

Q: What is the Goldilocks Method in texting?
A: It's about finding the balance — not being too eager (hot) or too detached (cold) in your texts.

Q: How can I create intrigue over text?
A: Share just enough to pique her interest and leave her wanting more. Mystery makes you intriguing.

Q: Why is the first impression so important?
A: It sets the stage for future interactions. A strong first impression makes her want to see you again and also gives you room to build a dynamic where she feels comfortable 'chasing' you

Q: How do I know if she's earning the date?
A: If she's investing time and effort into the conversation and showing genuine interest, she's earning it. If you feel like you are doing all the work to start up the conversations and maintain them, she is NOT earning a date.

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Hey there,
You ever feel like you're the one doing all the work in texting? It's time to flip the script. Most guys don't realize that making her earn a date is KEY to a successful relationship. It's not about playing games; it's about setting a standard. If you want to learn how to make her chase YOU, read the full post and watch the strategy video.
A few quick truths:
– Don't be too hot or too cold.
– Create a sense of mystery.
– Make that first impression count.
I break down the full strategy in today's video. If you're ready to stop chasing and start attracting, check out How to Make Her Earn a Date Over Text now.

Talk soon,
Adam Jordan
Founder, TextingPrince