You set the date. She agreed. Everything seemed solid… and then she hits you with the dreaded flake text:

“Can we reschedule? My dog’s not feeling well.” 😐

Whether the excuse is real or not doesn’t matter — what does matter is how you respond. Because the way you handle a flake says more about your confidence than anything you’ve texted before.

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The Flake Text Every Guy Dreads

A guy planned a date for 9pm. Never hung out with the girl before — they met online. A few hours before the meetup, she sends:

“I’m having some anxiety about leaving my dog alone… can we reschedule?”

Sound familiar? It could’ve been:

“Work got busy.”
“My roommate needs me.”
“A tornado hit my apartment.” 🌪️

It’s always some excuse. So the real question is: how do you respond when she flakes?

Why Most Guys Handle It All Wrong

Most guys either try to reschedule immediately (“No worries! What about Saturday?”) or guilt-trip her (“Wow. That’s pretty messed up.”).

Both kill attraction.

• Rescheduling tells her she still has all the power
  

• Guilt-tripping makes you look emotionally unstable
  
  Neither response positions you as a grounded, high-value man
  
  

The Right Way to Respond (Play It Cool)

Here’s what you do instead:

Play it off like it’s no big deal.

That’s what I did. I waited 90 minutes to respond and texted:

“Hey no worries — totally understand. I hope your dog gets better 😊.”

That’s it.

Simple. Calm. Emotionally in control. Just like James Bond would do it.

To understand the “why” behind flakes, read why women flake—3 reasons she ghosted.

What It Signals When She Cancels

When a girl flakes, it’s a sign she’s not 100% bought in. That’s okay. It happens. But the way you respond either reinforces your value — or confirms her doubts.

If she was interested, she’ll come back around.
If she wasn’t? Nothing you say is going to save it anyway.

Don’t Reschedule — Let Her Earn It

If she cancels, don’t immediately try to reschedule. That’s a reward for bad behavior. If she wants to make it right, let her be the one to bring it up.

Let her chase. Let her earn your time. If she’s into you, she will. And if she doesn’t? You saved yourself from investing in a dead-end.

Prevent the next flake by learning when to ask her out over text (read her signals first).

Frequently Asked Questions

Q: She flaked day-of. What do I text?
A: Keep it short and calm: “No worries—hope everything’s okay. We’ll try another time.” Then stop. Give her space. Let her reopen with effort, she cancelled now she needs to show you some investment before you consider asking her out again.

Q: Should I offer a new day right away?
A: Absolutely not. Wait to see if she leads the reschedule. Effort is your signal. Remember she now knows you want to go on a date with her... so you need to give her space. If you keep pushing for the date, like a cat, she will run away from you. If you give her space and let her reach out to you when she's ready, you are letting her (the cat) warm up to you, and then she will be ready to POUNCE and jump your bones ;).

Q: What if she gives a legit reason and proposes another time?
A: IF it genuinely works in your schedule, you can accept it, but this is a one time thing. If she flakes or re-schedules on you again, then you need to play it off cool, back off, and make her really show effort and investment in her texting before you consider setting up a time to get together. (I have a lot more higher-level advanced texting breakdowns in my courses - but you get the general idea).

Q: She flaked twice—do I try again?
A: No. Two flakes = pattern. Protect your time and move on. The only way I would consider it after that is if she does all the work and comes straight over to my place later at night for a 'Netflix and Chill' low effort hangout. I definitely would not take this girl out on a 'proper first date' after her two flakes.

Q: How do I prevent flakes in the first place?
A: Ask open (“When are you free?”), keep plans simple, and confirm once with light confidence—no neediness, no agenda essay. And quite honestly, get my Texting School advanced video course or my PrinceVIP Bundle which includes ALL of my courses and programs covering ALL stages of the attraction, dating, and relationship process with women.

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