Man staying calm after getting flaked on, texting a cool reply that builds attraction and confidence

What to Do When a Woman Flakes (Texting Strategy That Works)

April 17, 20252 min read

You set the date. She agreed. Everything seemed solid… and then she hits you with the dreaded flake text:

“Can we reschedule? My dog’s not feeling well.” 😐

Whether the excuse is real or not doesn’t matter — what does matter is how you respond. Because the way you handle a flake says more about your confidence than anything you’ve texted before.

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The Flake Text Every Guy Dreads

A guy planned a date for 9pm. Never hung out with the girl before — they met online. A few hours before the meetup, she sends:

“I’m having some anxiety about leaving my dog alone… can we reschedule?”

Sound familiar? It could’ve been:

“Work got busy.”
“My roommate needs me.”
“A tornado hit my apartment.” 🌪️

It’s always some excuse. So the real question is: how do you respond when she flakes?

Why Most Guys Handle It All Wrong

Most guys either try to reschedule immediately (“No worries! What about Saturday?”) or guilt-trip her (“Wow. That’s pretty messed up.”).

Both kill attraction.

  • Rescheduling tells her she still has all the power

  • Guilt-tripping makes you look emotionally unstable

    Neither response positions you as a grounded, high-value man


The Right Way to Respond (Play It Cool)

Here’s what you do instead:
Play it off like it’s no big deal.

That’s what I did. I waited 90 minutes to respond and texted:

“Hey no worries — totally understand. I hope your dog gets better 😊.”

That’s it.

Simple. Calm. Emotionally in control. Just like James Bond would do it.

What It Signals When She Cancels

When a girl flakes, it’s a sign she’s not 100% bought in. That’s okay. It happens. But the way you respond either reinforces your value — or confirms her doubts.

If she was interested, she’ll come back around.
If she wasn’t? Nothing you say is going to save it anyway.

Don’t Reschedule — Let Her Earn It

If she cancels, don’t immediately try to reschedule. That’s a reward for bad behavior. If she wants to make it right, let her be the one to bring it up.

Let her chase. Let her earn your time. If she’s into you, she will. And if she doesn’t? You saved yourself from investing in a dead-end.

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Adam has helped thousands of men improve their dating and relationship life since 2016.

Adam Jordan

Adam has helped thousands of men improve their dating and relationship life since 2016.

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