If a woman sends you a boring message online, don’t overthink it — learn how to flip dull conversations into playful, high-value interactions using the principle of Autopilot Texting.

Most conversations start to head in the 'boring' direction fast when there's a message like:

“Hey, how’s your weekend going?”

It’s flat, forgettable, and the fastest way for a match to die before it starts.
But the secret isn’t to punish her silence — it’s to snap her out of autopilot mode.

In this post, I’ll show you exactly how I turned one of these bland openers on Bumble into a fun conversation (and a perfect example of Autopilot Texting in action).

🎥 Watch the full video How to Respond to Boring Messages below:

What “Autopilot Texting” Actually Means

“Autopilot texting” happens when people reply automatically — no emotion, no curiosity, just muscle-memory conversation.

That’s why messages like “How’s your day?” or “What’s up?” instantly stall.
They don’t require her to think. They don’t wake her up.

Your job is to interrupt that autopilot loop — not by sending something weird or over-the-top, but by being intentional and observant.

The Real Example (Bumble Conversation)

A girl named Lauren opened with:

“Hey Adam, how’s your weekend going?”

I didn’t reply for three days.

Why? Because nothing about it stood out.
She was blending in with the dozens of “copy-paste” messages men and women trade every day.

When I finally replied, I wanted to get off this BORING autopilot conversation so I referenced a dog she had in her profile photo:

“Better once you give me that cute dog from your profile pic :)”

That one playful line did everything:

• Made the message personal

• Brought her attention back to me

• Flipped the energy from neutral → fun
  
  

She instantly responded — and even double-texted later when I didn’t reply right away.

Why Most Guys Still Blow It Here

Most men think the fix is to send longer or “more interesting” replies.
Wrong.

The goal isn’t more words. It’s better energy.

If she’s boring, don’t overcompensate — just show leadership in the vibe.
Your texts should always feel like you’re the prize she has to engage.

👉 Need help learning how to project that prize energy?
Read How to Be the Prize When Texting Women.

Avoid the Trap of Double-Texting

When Lauren didn’t get a quick reply, she double-texted — a second message trying to make sure I’d seen her last text.

It’s a common mistake men make too.
You think you’re “reminding” her to reply, but it just signals neediness.

If she doesn’t respond, it’s not personal. It just means your last text didn’t trigger curiosity.
When you master Autopilot Texting, you learn how to craft messages that invite her to invest without pressure.

And here’s the truth: when you stop chasing, women start re-investing.
That’s the mindset behind Why Women Respond More When You Text Less.

How to Snap Her Out of Autopilot Mode

When in doubt, follow these steps:

1️⃣ Find a Hook in Her Profile — pets, travel spots, or random photos.
2️⃣ Personalize It Playfully — tease, compliment, or make a funny offer.
3️⃣ Don’t Over-Explain. Leave space for curiosity.
4️⃣ Stay Unreactive. Don’t double-text or over-pursue.

When your texts feel different, she slows down and pays attention.
That’s when attraction actually begins.

The Psychology Behind Boring Openers

Boring messages are rarely about you.
They happen because she’s on autopilot — scrolling, swiping, multitasking, not really thinking.

When you reply with personality and composure, you become the rare man who changes her emotional state.
And that’s unforgettable.

If you want to keep that dynamic going, it’s not just about what you text — it’s about how you show up.

That’s the difference between average guys and high-value men on dating apps.
👉 Read How to Be a High-Value Man on Dating Apps for a full breakdown.

FAQs: Responding to Boring Messages

Q: What should I say when a girl sends “Hey, how’s your day?”
A: If it's early on in an online dating conversation, avoid mirroring her dull tone. Reference her profile or photos to make your response unique and engaging so your conversation can start to stand out from the rest. IF this is a woman you have seen before then I have a different strategy to respond in a low effort way to keep her chasing, which is all covered in Texting School.

Q: Should I reply fast to keep the conversation alive?
A: No. Quick replies signal low value. Space out your responses to show calm confidence. Search in my blog for Mirror Texting and you'll have my exact plan for how long to respond to each of her messges.

Q: Is it rude to ignore a boring opener?
A: Not at all. Sometimes silence teaches her what gets your attention — and what doesn’t.

Q: What if she double-texts me after I ignore the first message?
A: Stay calm. Double-texts mean she’s now chasing your energy. Keep the momentum playful but don’t reward neediness with immediate replies. If a woman double-texts that signals investment so I will reply, and usually ask her a personal or playful question to keep her investing by getting her to continue to talk.

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• How to turn any match into an engaging conversation
  

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-Adam Jordan
Founder of TextingPrince