If you’ve ever had a girl agree to a date, seem excited… and then flake last minute — you’re not alone.

And no, confirming with “We still on for tonight?” doesn’t fix it.

Most guys unknowingly set up boring dates.
There’s no tension, no emotional build-up, and no mystery.
But with one playful text, you flip the entire script — and get her showing up with a smile.

👇 Watch the full video breakdown and see how this works in real time:

Why Most Guys Get Flaked On (Before the Date Even Starts)

Guys get flaked on not because the girl hates them — but because there’s no emotional momentum before the date.

You texted too formally. You played it too safe.
You didn’t give her anything to anticipate.

So when she’s tired, distracted, or unsure… she bails.
Because nothing about the night feels unique.

To avoid no-shows long-term, learn why women flake—and what that really means.

The Power of Pre-Date Anticipation

Instead of texting to confirm the date like a corporate meeting, text in a way that builds curiosity.

That’s how you get her thinking about you.
That’s how you get her excited for the experience.

And that’s how you get her to actually show up.

The “One Thing” Text Strategy (Text Examples)

Here’s the move (watch the full video above to learn more):

Before the date, send her something playful like:

“One rule for Thursday…”

Wait for her to respond and then you can tell her. 

“You have to bring 4 quarters, not a dollar bill, 4 quarters.”

Or a different way could be:

“I’m assigning you a mission…”

Wait for her to respond and then you can tell her. 

“We need a pack of king size Skittles for the date Thursday”

That small, fun challenge turns the date into something more than a hangout.

It gives her a job. It hooks her attention. It changes the frame.

Now she’s invested.

Why This Works (Psychology Breakdown)

This works because it creates commitment momentum.

When she agrees and brings the item, she’s already taken an action toward seeing you.

That reduces the psychological friction.

And it gives you a playful callback moment DURING the date.

Instead of “Let’s meet,” it becomes “Let’s play.”

Women love that dynamic shift.

How to Use This in Your Own Texts

Next time you set up a date, don’t just confirm — prime it.

Use a one-line playful text to spark her imagination.
Make her feel like something different is about to happen.

That tiny energy shift?

That’s what makes the difference between a flake…
and a date she’s excited to show up for.

Once she shows up and it goes well, here’s how to text after a date so the momentum keeps building.

Frequently Asked Questions

Q: When should I send the pre-date text?
A: Ideally when you set up the date correctly (like I teach in Texting School my advanced video course) you DON'T send the pre-date text. You confirm the day, exact time, and location when you set up the date and expect she will show. If you reach out the day of the date, it looks like 'insecurity' because you aren't confident the woman will show up.

Q: What exactly do I say?
A: Again you do not want to send a pre-date text. After I confirm a date with a woman I make up a reason I have to go and end the conversation. THEN a woman will typically reach out at some point before the date to make 'small talk'. I answer 2-3 messages and then make up a reason I have to go and end the conversation - BUT I make sure to again confirm the day and time in her mind. "It was good hearing from ya. I gotta finish up some work, but i'll see ya Thursday at 8 pm."

Q: Do I need to reconfirm the time and place?
A: Confirm once, casually. Avoid multiple check-ins—that reads nervous. If she’s interested, she makes it easy. Once you have nailed down the location you don't typically need to reconfirm that piece, but I DO reconfirm the day and time during our casual texting leading up until the date. See again: "It was good hearing from ya. I gotta finish up some work, but i'll see ya Thursday at 8 pm."

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