Why are women drawn to players and bad boys who seem unattainable? This is a question many men ponder. I recently had a coaching call with a client experiencing this firsthand. Just four months ago, he struggled to maintain women's interest. Now, he finds himself with five different women texting him first, eager for a date. He's never had this happen before and is both excited and confused by it.

In today's video, I explain why women are so attracted to men with an abundance mindset and how this mindset can transform your dating life.

🎥 Watch full video: Why Women Are Attracted to Players: Understanding the Game Below:

The Power of Perceived Value: The LG Chocolate Analogy

Do you remember when the LG Chocolate phone was popular? Everyone wanted it. Fast forward to today, and nobody cares about it anymore. The same principle applies to dating. When something is in demand, its value skyrockets. When you have multiple women interested in you, it signals that you are valuable, making you even more desirable. This is the first reason why women are drawn to players—they perceive high demand as high value.

Imagine you're shopping for a new book on Amazon. You gravitate towards the one with all the solid reviews (4 and 5 star reviews). It's the same with dating. Women are attracted to men who are wanted by others. This is why the "rich get richer" in dating. It's all about maintaining an abundance mindset and letting women sense that you have options.

Appreciation Through Effort: Why Women Value What They Work For

The second key reason women are attracted to players is effort appreciation. Think about something you've worked hard for, like saving up for a big purchase. You value it more because of the effort you put in. The same goes for relationships. When a woman has to work to earn your attention, she values it more.

In my early days as a schoolteacher, I saved up to buy a duplex. It was tough, but because I sacrificed and worked hard, I cherish it more than if it had been handed to me. Women feel the same way about men they have to work for. If you give your time and attention freely without requiring effort from her, she won't appreciate it as much. But if she has to compete for your attention, she'll value it more.

To better help you understand ways to do this, check out my post When to Stop Texting Her (And Why It Makes You More Attractive)

Why the Player Mindset Works: A Recap

Players keep multiple women interested by not obsessively chasing any one woman. This creates a dynamic where women must compete and work for his attention. This is contrary to the "blue pill" mindset where men are taught to continuously serve and please women. When you maintain an abundance mindset and emotional unavailability, women respect and appreciate you more.

Remember, perceived value increases when others want you, similar to the LG Chocolate phone. Women find men more attractive when they sense other women also want them. And when a woman has to work for a man's attention and affection, she values him more. This is why women are drawn to players who project an abundance mindset.

Embracing the Abundance Mindset: Your Path to Dating Success

If you're still in the dating game and feel guilty or pressured to change yourself to please women, stop. Maintain your abundance mindset, focus on your own life goals, and let women who align with your lifestyle come along willingly. This mindset shift is fundamental to successful dating dynamics.

Shift your perspective from asking, "What can I do to make her want me?" to "What does she bring to make me want her?" This reversal highlights the empowerment that comes from adopting an abundance mentality.

For more insights on maintaining a confident frame and how to develop a more abundant mindset, check out my post on How to Be The Prize When Texting Women.

Frequently Asked Questions About Why Women Are Attracted to Players

Q: Do women really like players?
A: Yes, women are often drawn to players because they project an abundance mindset, which signals high value. Women are selective about who they date... what's the quickest way for you to pass her 'selection'? When she finds out other women have ALREADY selected you.

Q: Should I pretend to have multiple options if I don't?
A: It's not about pretending; it's about genuinely focusing on your life and goals, which naturally creates the perception of high value. When you have drive, ambition, and respect your own time, women will also respect your time.

Q: How can I maintain an abundance mindset?
A: Focus on your personal growth and goals, and don't over-prioritize any one woman until she proves worthy. The minute you start planning your life around one woman... or changing your schedule around so that you can 'get a chance' with a woman, that sends big LOW VALUE signals to the woman and her attraction decreases.

Q: What if a woman finds out I'm dating others?
A: If she values you, she'll understand that you're a high-value man with options. And again... that just shows women you are 'pre-selected' by other women which will work in your favor.

For more on understanding this perceived value in your texting so you don't slip up and make mistakes, check out my post on Texting Mistakes That Turn Women Off (And How to Fix Them Fast).

And if you want to dive deeper into the art of texting and attraction?

Check out my Art of Texting Women Masterclass for free. It's a 90 minute video masterclass on understanding how to communicate in a high-value way to every woman you message.

Or if you want to get the fastest results and improvement to your specific situation and questions, get direct 1-on-1 coaching to really spice up your dating life in real time, book a personal session with me here: TextingPrince.com/coaching.

Talk soon,

Adam Jordan
Founder, TextingPrince